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  • Do you desire a life where you know and live your inner purpose? That instead of floating through life you know exactly what your true desires are and living to your fullest potential? Do you feel like what you are longing for is just hidden under the surface and once you discover it there will be no holding you back?

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Being here in London I feel so inspired by everything that I pass by and take in; the endless fashion choices, how people decorate their homes, the different boroughs, the greenery, and of course the social class. London is unlike any city I have experienced before and it has a pulse that energizes me.

I recently wrote about knowing what you desire, but I also know that we stop ourselves from actually getting what we desire due to our past or the loop constantly playing in our head saying we are not one of the lucky ones. I know how limiting these beliefs can be, because I have stopped myself from realizing my desires or even dreaming for that matter!

I almost stopped myself from dreaming just the other day!

I was enjoying an afternoon in London when I had a strike of inspiration and it stayed with me all day. I wanted to act on it immediately, which meant going home to write it out, but my role as wife and mother came first and before I knew it days had passed before I remembered my inspiration. By then I had almost talked myself out of writing about it, saying it was never going to happen anyway so what was the point.

Here I am in London living out a dream of mine and I was telling myself that something was never going to happen, because I was not one of the lucky ones!

Do you see how quickly and easily we can stop ourselves from our desires by one simple thought?

So in answer to my negative thought, I did the opposite. I dreamed away and I gave way to my desire. All I wanted to do was write it out and create a Pinterest board so that I could have a place for my vision to come to life.

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The inspiration that hit me was having a retreat in the country filled with soft tartan throws and cashmere blankets, where food was beautifully prepared and tastes lingered on the tongue, that there would be a body of water to swim in, a hammock would beckon your body for rest, and candles would flicker every night in a warm glow.

A desire so simple yet I almost stopped myself from believing I was lucky enough to dream it.

Are you stopping yourself from dreaming?

Know that you are worthy enough to dream as large as you want to. The belief that you are not one of the lucky ones is a lie and should no longer be repeated to yourself.

Once you allow yourself to dream, you open yourself to actually receiving the desires of your heart as well as dreams even bigger than you ever imagined.

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We settle very quickly into our rhythm of London. It isn’t the typical rhythm as there is no commute to contend with or the rush to and fro, but we love it nonetheless. We are experiencing London just the way we want to. We all slow down to a beautiful pace that we thrive in. Mornings are spent with all of us in our bed, after Isla has woken in her cot, and we slip her under the covers and let her play and roam around us while him and I slowly wake up. She takes her morning milk here and we stare at her looking at all her tiny features, always exclaiming how happy we are that she is ours.

We fall into our routine of taking a morning walk to our favourite café within Camden, where they quickly learn our order and always have it produced within minutes of our arrival. After our coffee, sometimes we head back home but most times we head out to explore another area of London. We typically head towards Marylebone as it’s a quick bus ride from Camden and an area of the city we love. There we wander in and out of stores stopping at my favourite The Little White Company and The White Company looking at all the wares that I feel embody who I am so easily…feminine, simple, and refined. We spend hours together like this before he leaves us to go back to our flat to work and I spend the afternoon with her as we wander up and down the streets of London.

Everything is just as I imagined it would be, but even better.

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In the fall of 2011, I was commissioned to photograph 10 gorgeous women in France at a beautiful château filled with century old antiques and acres of countryside surrounding the area. I drove up, in the dead of the night, assuming that I was there to photograph and inspire these women to feel good about their bodies…but what I walked away with was more life changing than anything. I walked away with the desire to do more than photograph and not work with women only once. I desired to work with women repeatedly and support them as they transformed their lives from dreams to reality.

That weekend I saw what was possible, that there are women who desperately want to make changes in their life but are unsure which path to take, which dream to implement first, or even how to come up with a dream that they want to pursue. As I pulled away from the château I realized that I was created to be of service to these women, to support them and champion them along the way. That I had an ability to coach them to ask the right questions, to dive deeper so that they knew without a doubt that the dream they were pursing would lead them to live a life that authentically resonated with them.

However, I still had my photography business, and it was going well. There was such fear around the thought that photography was a part of the journey to coaching. I was afraid that I’d look like someone with no direction…someone who just jumped from one idea to the next. I was anxious that I would be judged as someone who was  so flippant about my career. How could I just give up everything I had worked so hard for over the past three years?

The truth was I knew that I had a deeper calling on my life, and photography was a part of the journey to get me there. Just like working in corporate or attending interior design school. Everything was leading me to here.

So I worked out a plan and committed myself to not pursue life coaching for two years and focus on building my business. That’s is a long time hard for someone who loves to start projects.

But life has a funny way of changing your best laid plans.

Eight months later Mister and I were packing up our belongings in Holland and moving back to Canada, and I made the decision to close my photography business and pursue coaching instead.

So with the new transition in our life, I came up with the plan that I’d start coaching within weeks of arriving in Vancouver. Again, even with the best laid plans, life has a way of saying not yet.

I spent the next six months in a state of reverse culture shock, emotionally burnt out from packing up our life and business and moving back into our old apartment. I spent that time also wondering what I was going to do with my life.

In all the turmoil of moving and closing down my business I started wonder if what I was feeling before was truly what I wanted to do. I let myself get off my path and started following what was expected of me. I made a decision and invested money into something that I shouldn’t have. Thankfully I learned a lot from it.

But in the middle of finishing something that I shouldn’t have started the embers for life coaching began to shift into flames. I started responding to situations and questions from friends and peers in a different way, and knew I had to go back to that weekend in France and figure out exactly what I wanted to do.

I then hosted my first give away, and it exploded in ways I never imagined. And from that moment on I knew that life coaching would be the direction I would be going.

If you would like to get on the waitlist to work with me in 2015, send me an email! I cannot wait to hear from you!

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Saturday it is raining and we escape to the National Museum for hours of wandering and enjoying history. Once we get our fill we step outside to the bright sunshine and the smell of crisp autumn air, it fills our lungs and refreshes us. We walk and walk before we step into a thai restaurant in Soho where I realize I have dined, 3 years prior on a work trip to London, when I joined successful engineers for lunch. Before coming to London I was afraid it would feel large and too busy. However, I find that even though there is much to learn and experience, somehow it feels familiar and much smaller than I anticipated. In a way it feels like home.

Sunday it is sunny and beautiful so we head to our new favourite cafe near Camden Town before walking through Regent’s park while Isla sleeps away in her pram. When she finally wakes we walk down famous Baker Street towards Marylebone and pass by again more familiar streets where we’ve once shopped and explored. We take our time as we walk through Hyde Park towards Kensington Gardens and I realize that this is all I ever wanted to do, was explore the parks and gardens of London with Isla. With her by our side we view the city differently than before. We stop by playgrounds to let her explore and lay for hours in the grass as she crawls all around and over us. I lay down a white blanket before the Physical Energy Statue in the gardens and the Long Water behind us we lay in the grass overlooking the Palace for hours and it’s the most enjoyable moment we’ve had as a family on this getaway. That evening we make a wonderful paella for dinner before calling it a night after our long day.

Monday morning we enjoy a much needed family nap after a fitful night of comforting Isla. Even though I said I would never let my child sleep in my bed there is something so comforting sleeping with her in my arms. When we finally make it out of the house we are greeted at our cafe and two flat whites are quickly produced for us to enjoy. While she continues to sleep in the pram we walk to Primrose Hill and enjoy stopping in at the estate and letting agents to look at what is available in the neighbourhood, what attracts us, and what we could potentially live in. We step into a quaint cafe when the winds blow and the chill sets our cheeks all pink and are greeted with friendly smiles and hellos. We settle in with a warm hot chocolate for me, perhaps the best I’ve ever had, and another flat white for him. She sits in our laps completely content to play with our hands and faces while we watch the leaves fall from the trees outside.

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In the fall of 2011 I took a business trip to London and eagerly looked forward to exploring the city on my own. I had endless shopping and browsing in mind, due to the fact I was alone and could look to my heart’s content. One of the places on my list was Selfridges on Oxford Street. A beautiful building that houses endless luxury brands, the shoe gallery, and an amazing selection of home wares.

I took the tube to my destination and anticipated what I would find, and possibly take home with me.

During my time at Selfridges I passed through all the luxury brands running my hands through the silks and satins, the soft texture of Italian leather, placing diamond bangles on my wrist. It all felt luxurious and opulent, extravagant. Yet I was there with my 5 euro purse and beat up boots from 3 seasons before, standing next to women completely polished and adorned head-to-toe in designer labels. I knew I belonged in Selfridges, but I wondered how these women could afford the Yves Saint Laurent bags and the Chanel jackets when I was trying to find a mid-season sale to replace my boots!

I knew I desired more, much more.

I left Selfridges in a fury, filled with frustration and tears almost escaping my eyes. I did not even bother to continue my excursion to the boutiques on my list and went straight home to my computer. I immediately started looking for jobs that would pay me more than I was making, thinking that would solve the unease I was feeling.

The answer was not securing a new job. It came from dropping the mind game of it is for everyone else, except me. That they can do it, but not I. That I am not one of the lucky ones.

It was about choosing to accept what my desires actually are, and being completely comfortable with it.

The envy or desire to have something can be a sign that you want it, and you can have it too.

I have been back to Selfridges many times since then, and have never had that profound of experience repeat itself. Mostly, because I know what I desire and I am completely comfortable with allowing myself to step into my desires with confidence. This European getaway is one of them, and it feels so good!

It is about choosing, accepting, and welcoming.

THE GUIDE TO KNOWING WHAT YOU DESIRE:

1. Dream the bigger vision.
Dream as big as you possibly can about the desire that is stirring within you. This is where the fun comes in and you can allow yourself to play and envision what it would feel like to finally live out your desires. Create a vision board using magazines or Pinterest, or write it out in present tense.

2. Identify the elements.
When you have finally dreamed the biggest you could possibly dream, identify the elements of your desire that bring you the most pleasure. The ones that truly awaken you. These are the ones that are most important and should be cared after with the upmost attention. These are the ones you want to fulfill.

3. Break down the expenditure.
Once you know which elements of your desire that you want to fulfill, you need to do your research of the cost of it. This is the hard part, because this is where the work starts to take place. It is no longer dreaming, but actually making things happen. Once you have researched the cost, keep it simple and break it down. Whether it be a weekly investment plan, creating a savings account, or working through each element separately (like flights booked first, then hotel booking, then the new luggage to carry the clothes you will buy in London).

4. Commit.
Committing can be the second hardest part of the process, because you have to begin saying yes to yourself, that you allow yourself to actually accept your desires. Commit to your desires.

5. Prepare the way.
Prepare yourself for your desires to come true. This may be physically by creating a healthier lifestyle, it may be by shopping for new clothes, it might be scheduling weekly massage appointments. Whatever it is, welcome your desires any way you can.

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