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  • Do you desire a life where you know and live your inner purpose? That instead of floating through life you know exactly what your true desires are and living to your fullest potential? Do you feel like what you are longing for is just hidden under the surface and once you discover it there will be no holding you back?

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In the fall of 2011 I took a business trip to London and eagerly looked forward to exploring the city on my own. I had endless shopping and browsing in mind, due to the fact I was alone and could look to my heart’s content. One of the places on my list was Selfridges on Oxford Street. A beautiful building that houses endless luxury brands, the shoe gallery, and an amazing selection of home wares.

I took the tube to my destination and anticipated what I would find, and possibly take home with me.

During my time at Selfridges I passed through all the luxury brands running my hands through the silks and satins, the soft texture of Italian leather, placing diamond bangles on my wrist. It all felt luxurious and opulent, extravagant. Yet I was there with my 5 euro purse and beat up boots from 3 seasons before, standing next to women completely polished and adorned head-to-toe in designer labels. I knew I belonged in Selfridges, but I wondered how these women could afford the Yves Saint Laurent bags and the Chanel jackets when I was trying to find a mid-season sale to replace my boots!

I knew I desired more, much more.

I left Selfridges in a fury, filled with frustration and tears almost escaping my eyes. I did not even bother to continue my excursion to the boutiques on my list and went straight home to my computer. I immediately started looking for jobs that would pay me more than I was making, thinking that would solve the unease I was feeling.

The answer was not securing a new job. It came from dropping the mind game of it is for everyone else, except me. That they can do it, but not I. That I am not one of the lucky ones.

It was about choosing to accept what my desires actually are, and being completely comfortable with it.

The envy or desire to have something can be a sign that you want it, and you can have it too.

I have been back to Selfridges many times since then, and have never had that profound of experience repeat itself. Mostly, because I know what I desire and I am completely comfortable with allowing myself to step into my desires with confidence. This European getaway is one of them, and it feels so good!

It is about choosing, accepting, and welcoming.

THE GUIDE TO KNOWING WHAT YOU DESIRE:

1. Dream the bigger vision.
Dream as big as you possibly can about the desire that is stirring within you. This is where the fun comes in and you can allow yourself to play and envision what it would feel like to finally live out your desires. Create a vision board using magazines or Pinterest, or write it out in present tense.

2. Identify the elements.
When you have finally dreamed the biggest you could possibly dream, identify the elements of your desire that bring you the most pleasure. The ones that truly awaken you. These are the ones that are most important and should be cared after with the upmost attention. These are the ones you want to fulfill.

3. Break down the expenditure.
Once you know which elements of your desire that you want to fulfill, you need to do your research of the cost of it. This is the hard part, because this is where the work starts to take place. It is no longer dreaming, but actually making things happen. Once you have researched the cost, keep it simple and break it down. Whether it be a weekly investment plan, creating a savings account, or working through each element separately (like flights booked first, then hotel booking, then the new luggage to carry the clothes you will buy in London).

4. Commit.
Committing can be the second hardest part of the process, because you have to begin saying yes to yourself, that you allow yourself to actually accept your desires. Commit to your desires.

5. Prepare the way.
Prepare yourself for your desires to come true. This may be physically by creating a healthier lifestyle, it may be by shopping for new clothes, it might be scheduling weekly massage appointments. Whatever it is, welcome your desires any way you can.

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N amed as one of Weddingbells Magazine’s top 30 most inspiring photographers of 2011, award-winning international photographers, Jasalyn and Jason Thorne, approach every wedding with a uniqueness that is clearly their own. Striving for excellence in every area, their commitment to each other, their clients and their work is always at the forefront of everything they do. With a background in fashion and fine arts, blended with their candid nature, every experience is filled with laughter and a lot of fun. Their clients are couples and individuals who love and esteem the art of the photograph. People who love photos and understand that images are an important part of our world and that their lives are priceless and worth investing in.

Name: Jasalyn Thorne
Occupation: Principal Photographer at Jasalyn Thorne Photography
Website/Blog: http://www.jasalynthornephotography.com/

Three of your favorite things to get you through the day (apps/drink/workout):

Looking at my past landscape photos and Instagram

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Who are you inspired by, and why?

For Photography: The artists of old and new in Vogue magazine: because they know what they’re doing and it’s always new and creative.

For Business: Seth Godin and The Mitchell Brothers: I glean a lot from their expertise of the market and how the customer thinks.

To get where you are today, how did you ‘feel the fear and move through it’ anyway? Where there any moments you thought you’d just simply quit?

In the beginning, gaining confidence in your work can be a tough road, especially when you haven’t found “your” style. Once we did, it wasn’t hard to ask to be paid for what we did. The biggest confidence moment was when had a client try to cut down our price further and further…and then we saw the lavish décor at their wedding and we said, ‘never again’, because we’re providing something that is going to last a lot longer than those flowers.

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There are many moments when you feel you want to quit. It’s usually the times when you have a lot of work on your plate and just feel like you haven’t been outside in days…because you’ve been working so much.

We always want to know how others balance it all, and I’m sure you feel like you don’t, but tell us some ways on how you stay on top of your game. What gets left behind, what gets top priority, and what helps you stay grounded?

It’s usually personal works and projects that get left behind, for the moment at least, while the work for the awaiting client is completed. But, once that work is completed and sent out, getting to work a little on my own projects keeps my fire going. We’re artists, we’re not built for the repetitive tasks that running a business demands. We need that creative time to let what is in us out.

What are your must-have tools to keep on top of every day tasks as well as your busy life?

Daycare for my daughter. Just a couple of days a week so I can focus, she can have playtime with other kids (which she loves!) and then when she gets home I can give her my full attention – exactly what she deserves. It’s too painful for me to coup myself up in my office and have her knock at the door for me to come and play with her and have to tell her ‘no’ …I hate having to do that so daycare was the solution. I can get work done and she can play.

Living intentionally takes action and dedication, is there a specific moment in your life where you made the decision to live intentionally? Or has it always been the way you’ve lived life?

I’ve always been a dreamer, seeing the finished work in my mind, so I’ve always had somewhat of a vision of what I want to do and what I want to do next.

How has your life changed since you’ve been living it intentionally?

Realizing that if I don’t ACTUALLY take steps towards the vision for my life, things will just stay the same. You have more control over your life than you think, if you just start DOING something.

Have your family/friends been supportive?

Jason, my husband, has been a guiding force for my creativity. He is really good at seeing the things I excel at, then pointing and encouraging me in the right direction. He always listens to my gazillion-and-one new ideas and is very patient with me. Even when it takes me months to realize the advice he has been telling me for a long time was what I needed to do.

My Mom has always been my open ear and prayer partner; we talk about everything.

Do you have any rituals or friends you call upon when you need extra support or encouragement?

I find I read a lot of books – or at least parts of them. There’s always something that will stick out and be in line with the situations going on.

What is one piece of advice you’d give to someone who wants to live intentionally but doesn’t know where to start?

Write down what you love. What you love to read, what you love to do for enjoyment and what you love to look at. Chances are those are all a part of the story God has for you. He put those interests and passions in you to experience and enjoy. I find seeing it on paper can be one of the biggest and easiest ways to get going in a direction.

Where do you look to draw from when you want inspiration, visual or narrative, for the life you intend to live?

My prayer time with God when I’m out in nature; I can’t get enough of it. I also look at fashion magazines, art galleries and again, reading books. There’s always something new, some nugget from each chapter that will get me going on a new train of thought or idea.

I’m always inspired to hear what other people’s dreams are, what dream of yours are you currently working towards that you envision happening in the next year?

We’re very excited to say that we have been working on a few things. First, we’ll be releasing something new for the Vancouver Wedding market coming this Fall. We have been working on it for the last 5 years and have wanted to quit many times but each time we talk about it and why we’re doing it, we realize we can’t quit. It focuses on the people behind the art, behind the creative work and looks to educate the market on the depth and detail that goes into every part of their wedding day. It will focus on promoting creativity and innovation in the industry. We’re pretty excited!

Secondly, I think we’re going to pursue something in the art portraits we have been working on this past year. Some dogs, some horses. Any breed that is interesting to look at, I love the detail in nature.

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We arrive into London excited and ready to settle into our usual routine. After a two hour ride through the city, admiring the passing affluent neighbourhoods of Kensington and Marylebone, we arrive at our flat in Camden. Our place to call home for a month.

We settle in quickly by setting up her baby-cot and highchair and unpacking all of our clothes. While we tumble a load of laundry we head to the nearest market to pick up a few essentials. Before long we are all fast asleep in our own rooms, with our clothes neatly put away, and a fridge with breakfast ingredients.

We head out the next morning to purchase more essentials for our home by walking through Camden. I am surprised at how familiar everything is to me and lead us to a breakfast place while she sleeps in the pram. After, with two flat whites we stop in at Whole Foods and Sainsbury to pick up groceries before I head out on my own.

There is the typical infuriating moment of taking transportation in London, but I chalk it up to just experiencing London to the fullest. I eventually decide to walk to my destination and end up loving the result. I sit in a cafe with a friend while our babes crawl around on the wooden terrace and it is a moment. There I am sitting in London with a friend from Vancouver, whom I officially met in Barcelona, with our two small children playing together.

I come home and prepare Isla for bed fixing her up a delicious supper, running a bath, and placing her in white pjs before placing her in her bed. I run across the street to a small grocers to pick up a bottle of wine and settle in on the couch.

I wake up with our babe and quietly we escape upstairs to not disturb Adam. I play soft classical music while I fix her a breakfast of tart yogurt (something she did not enjoy two weeks ago) mango and apple puree and a bottle of milk. We spend the morning enjoying the time together, in the quiet, just the two of us.

We walk as a family through Camden towards Kings Cross before ending up at The Albany for a late lunch. Never allowed into Pubs in Vancouver with Isla it is a relief to be able to pop in with a baby to enjoy a meal and feed her as well. Later that evening when she has been put down for the night we make a delicious Indian dinner of Butter Chicken and Tikka Masala which we savour and enjoy.

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You know that list of ‘should have’ you have mentally going around in your head?

  • I should eat healthier
  • I should exercise more
  • I should stop drinking in the evenings
  • I should read more
  • I should be more patient with my children
  • I should send thank you notes
  • I should ….
  • I should ….

I’m sure you can fill in the rest and write more should haves, just like I can. I have a list of ‘should have’ that some days feel like a mile long. Having this constant loop playing in my head is tiring and lets face it, takes up  mental space that can be used else where.

Some times it can be easy to let the list overwhelm us and we give up and say the opposite and begin saying who cares if I eat healthier or exercise more? We can fall into the trap of saying ‘if I’m happy, does it matter if I have another glass of wine in the evening or spend a few more hours scrolling through the internet instead of opening a book to read?’.

Here are 3 tips to stop settling for less and start eliminating things from your ‘should have’ list and let them start becoming part of your every day life.

  1. Pick ONE item from your list that feels the more important.
  2. Ask yourself and answer honestly: Will you be more happy if you (fill in the blank with your item) Will you feel better about yourself if you (fill in the blank with your item)?
  3. Do you still want to be dealing with this ‘should have’ a month from now/a year from now/10 years from now?

Once you have your answer, be honest with yourself and make a commitment that you can actually follow through on. If you want to start exercising every single day, don’t set up a goal to work out every single day from the beginning. Start with at least one 20 minute session, on Wednesday, and put it in your calendar. And commit yourself to it, like you would commit to your best friend’s birthday party. You’ll be there on Wednesday, no matter what. Once you feel like you have a handle on that 20 minute session, add another day. Give yourself a reasonable timeline to start increasing your workouts so that when the 6 month/year/two year mark comes around, you have reached your goal of working out every single day and it has become part of your every day routine. You don’t even think about it any more.

It is no longer on your ‘should have’ list, but now a part of you.

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As I sit here in my London flat watching my baby explore every nook and cranny that she can find I realize how much I have grown, expanded, in the past couple of years since we have moved away from Europe. In some ways I am proud of myself. Yet sometimes I still struggle with ‘am I sharing too much? not enough?’.

I am unsure of what instituted the shift, but it is clearly there.

Before the summer of 2012 I loved announcing where I was traveling to, where I was staying, while also offering and accepting lunch and coffee dates to socialize and meet new people. I got so excited sharing the news of the new (or familiar) places and would anticipate the types of people I would meet along the way.

Summer of 2012 we made the decision to move home to Vancouver (where we quietly travelled around Europe for a month before returning) and then suddenly I found myself facing reverse culture shock and a mild depression, and since then I have become more secluded in my online profile. If you follow me on Instagram it is probably the only place where I am little more carefree with my posting. Facebook feels like a chore and Twitter feels like another universe for me.

So while I sit here in my London flat I realized that I didn’t say anything about us traveling back to Europe. That this is not just for a two week holiday but for a longer period than normal. And how excited I am that we actually made it happen!

On Instagram I’m posting almost every day of what this past month has looked like for us, but here on my blog it has been quiet and on Facebook I haven’t said a word.

This has been the result of not posting on social media for months and then really taking a look at what feeds me and what drains me.

I have become more private in what I post; keeping our lives a little more to ourselves and not so much of a “look at me and what I am doing”. And it feels good, really good to have some privacy.

But on the other hand I also understand that you might be wondering why it is so quiet here and perhaps where I have gone.

The answer is I am living life. It is lovely and beautiful. In the past month we’ve visited Paris, Amsterdam, Warsaw and are spending the month of October in London before flying to Porto, Portugal for the month of November. This has been a dream come true for us, one that I didn’t think was going to happen back in July but so happy that we were able to make a reality.

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