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  • Do you desire a life where you know and live your inner purpose? That instead of floating through life you know exactly what your true desires are and living to your fullest potential? Do you feel like what you are longing for is just hidden under the surface and once you discover it there will be no holding you back?

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When fear creeps up and I come face to face with it, I usually run to my bed. I crawl under the white duvet cover where it’s soft cotton wraps around my body and I can pull it all the way up over my head. I block the world out. I’ve spent many moments under the covers peering out, hoping that just this once, my fear would just leave me alone. It never does. Eventually I have to remove myself from the white sheets, set my feet on the cold ground, and face my fears.

In the next moment I grab piece of paper and make a list. A list of my fears, all of them, until I feel there is nothing left. In doing so, my breathing returns to normal, my brain starts working again, and my fears become broken down into just words.

And then, I write the opposite, the exact opposite of my fear.

I’m scared that my business will fail / My business will be successful.
I won’t have a beautiful studio space / My studio space will be the prefect place to meet my new friends and where off the hook shoots will happen.
Boudoir photography isn’t what people are looking for / Yea right, boudoir photos are the next best thing next to cupcakes at a wedding!
I’m scared that I’m going to fall on my face while chasing this dream / Chasing this dreams is going to give me the best set of legs and wings!

I love writing lists, because I’m a list girl, but because when I write the opposite, how in the world am I supposed to be scared when I’m telling myself I will be successful chasing after this beautiful dream?!

What do you do to help face your fears? Do you go running, do you talk with a friend? If you don’t know, try out writing a list!

And because I know you really come here to look at some photos, here is a little peek at what is to come!

  • June 21, 2011 - 9:10 PM

    Anne - Good strategy, Lesley! I am sometimes fearful as well, but we’ll be stronger afterwards :-) xoxoReplyCancel

  • June 21, 2011 - 9:16 PM

    Monica Dart - love your honesty….and I do the same – feel like hiking under the covers when fear seems to creep in. Just by changing your thought patterns to positive ones, changes everything. (Positive) thoughts create reality.ReplyCancel

  • June 21, 2011 - 9:29 PM

    Tanja A. - I like the picture! Also very elegant eye makeup!
    Very curious to see the other pictures! :) ReplyCancel

  • June 21, 2011 - 9:49 PM

    Anouschka - Turning negatives into positives, that’s the way to go!
    Love that photo btw, look forward to seeing more!ReplyCancel

  • June 28, 2011 - 9:56 PM

    Stacie Frazier - This is so profound for me since I am so full of so many fears! I am going to try this the next time I feel those fears creeping up on me!

    really love your blog, by the way. I absolutely must start finding the time to read it more often!ReplyCancel

    • June 29, 2011 - 9:10 AM

      Lesley - I’m so happy you found it useful Stacie! I get so bogged down with my fears that I found this to be a great way to deter them. Let me know how it goes! :) ReplyCancel

Last night, Mister and I laid out on our black leather couches, while the sun turned the sky a vibrant orange and red, almost the colour of fire. We relaxed into our glasses of bold Shiraz and talked about things that mattered to our heart. It was a lovely and perfect evening, just the two of us enjoying our time together.

Just before he crawled into bed, where I was reading my novel, he brought his laptop in. “I want to show you something” he said, “you’re going to cry”. And cry I did. Streams of tears fell from my eyes and pooled onto my chest. It was moving and heart wrenching.

It made me think that no matter what we’ve been given in life, we have all been put here for a purpose. We each have a gift and we have to find it to use it to it’s greatest potential. It doesn’t need to make people cry, but yes, it must make an impact on people. It make me think about what it is I’m doing to have an impact on people…life isn’t about becoming famous or having all the money in the world. No, it’s about creating a welcoming and lasting impression for people, a legacy of love, compassion, and friendship.

Grab some Kleenex, sit down, and be prepared to move:

What kind of impact and legacy do you want to have?

  • June 9, 2011 - 9:23 AM

    Tanja - Crying my eyes out here… seriously. Love that you shared this Lesley.ReplyCancel

  • June 9, 2011 - 9:44 AM

    Jennifer Hejna - this is just awesome – I had to cry as well – thank you so much for sharingReplyCancel

  • June 9, 2011 - 9:48 AM

    anouschka - wow, that left me speechless…. thanks for sharing!ReplyCancel

  • June 9, 2011 - 12:54 PM

    Jelger - Very, very impressive!ReplyCancel

  • June 9, 2011 - 8:59 PM

    Cathy Empey - Tears. Lots of tears! Oh Leslie, how beautiful. Thank you for sharing this.ReplyCancel

  • June 10, 2011 - 2:16 PM

    Gary Jones - I want to leave this world better then I found it. I try to do that one person at a time.ReplyCancel

  • June 10, 2011 - 7:01 PM

    Erin Michelle - I cried when I first saw this as well. Amazing!ReplyCancel

  • June 10, 2011 - 10:38 PM

    Ben - Very sad story! That boys has a great voice, and I hope it takes him far.ReplyCancel

  • June 11, 2011 - 4:49 AM

    Melissa - Crying here also. Thanks so much for sharing.ReplyCancel

  • June 14, 2011 - 6:15 AM

    Dee - Oh my, thank you so much for sharing!ReplyCancel

  • June 15, 2011 - 10:24 PM

    Denise Birdsong - oh, so sad. but thank you so much for sharing this <3ReplyCancel

Have you ever wanted to try something, a new medium of art, a new genre of reading material, a new sport, pull off a different style of clothing or shoes, or even wanted to live in a different part of the city? Have you ever felt that pull, that desire to expand further then where you’re standing now, but didn’t take a step further cause it wasn’t ‘you’? You weren’t known for those things, those things weren’t you, they perhaps belonged to someone else?

I’ve been there. I didn’t want to do photography because I had more then enough friends who were wedding photographers, I was intimidated in the kitchen because I have a friend who I like to call Martha Stewart cause she’s an awesome cook, I’ve wanted to pull off fun and fashionable clothing but didn’t dare purchase anything further then classic basics as I wasn’t a fashionista.

I felt the pull, the desire to be bigger then myself. I’m sure I am not alone. I am tired of living inside of the box I created for myself. Tired of only expecting ordinary from myself and want to bust those walls down. We should be living a life that we’re excited to live and inspiring others in our pursuit!

Are you with me?! Are you wanting to break out of your own walls, to be bigger then you expected? To inspire others to live an exciting life?

I was wondering, would you like to do this journey together? I would sure like some partners in crime! Let me know what you’d like to do, what walls you’d like to break down, what new thing(s) you’d like to try. I’m going to write a little mini series on what things I’m doing to live a more exciting life, and some things you can try as well!

Leave a comment or send me an email and let’s go on this journey together!

  • May 11, 2011 - 7:07 PM

    Amanda - I always feel like other people “own” things and that I can do them myself because they are “hers”. Stop. Let’s be the best we can be and take on new and exciting things. I’m going to own my style, bake and cook things that I want to, and just grab whatever new and exciting opportunities are thrown my way. Let’s break down the walls and conquer our lives.ReplyCancel

  • May 13, 2011 - 11:28 PM

    Grama - I broke out along time ago. Got my act together and started painting and putting my talent to work and getting paid for it, lol. Took courses in floral decorating, wow, that was fun, if you have an eye for it go for it. Never stop trying different things. Hubby and I are now with RVICS, roving volunteers for Christs service with our RV, we go all over the states and Canada and do work at schools, camps, campuse, where ever the most need is. We volunteer our time and do what ever we can. Believe it or not I got commissioned to do two pieces of art.

    Never doubt yourself until you try it.
    Hugs GramaReplyCancel

  • May 16, 2011 - 7:51 PM

    Brittany - I’m totally right along with you there Lesley…and I feel it’s something creative people have troubles with sometimes…it’s like you’re happy doing anything with your hands, but how do you put it all in play so that you can make a living of it, so that you can share and inspire others to do the same?

    For the past couple of years I’ve REALLY been into Photography, and I would love it to become something I can develop into my own…to have original ideas…to let other people look at my photos and see something of their self in them, to let people dream and to dream BIG.

    But then I think of the reality of it all…really there are SO many amazing photographers…could I be AMAZING? Could I make a LIVING off of something I really love so much? How would I BREAK INTO this? And is it really something that could be MY reality?

    I hate this world that puts doubts in our mind…making us feel like we’re something less that what God has created us to be. He has given us gifts, and talents, and passions for a reason. So why do we question ourselves so often? Why do we limit ourselves to only be “sub-par” of what we could be?

    I believe all these feelings are common struggles we all go through day to day. Maybe we just need to let God take these doubts from within us and let him bless us with the things our hearts desire. In HIS way :)

    xx -b.ReplyCancel

Dear Beautiful Reader,

The other day I was thinking about you, of your beautiful face illuminated by the blue screen of your computer, perhaps with a cup of coffee beside you, soaking in the words that I continue to write. I thought about how you continue to come back, sometimes lurking, sometimes leaving a comment when you feel it is most appropriate, and I can’t thank you for each time you continue to click on my blog.

We have been through a lot, you and I, and not once have you told me to “Suck it up Princess” when I’m having a rough day, or “Stop tooting your own horn” when I have a celebratory moment, you have continued to support and cheer me on despite all my rambling. You are truly my hero!

Thank you for continuing to read, send me little notes, and being there. I truly appreciate it!

Love always,
lesley

PS, These flowers are for you. Thanks!

  • April 30, 2011 - 4:40 PM

    Anouschka - My favorite flowers :) what a sweet post!ReplyCancel

  • May 1, 2011 - 2:01 AM

    Marta - Hi Lesley … thanks for the flowers – they are beautiful. Remind me of ones just like them we had in our garden when I was growing up. I miss you guys :) We have one more day in Asia before we come home and then we can catch up again!ReplyCancel

  • June 25, 2011 - 6:13 PM

    I'm an open book, ask me questions! | Adley Studio - [...] I wrap myself in my favourite turquoise zippy and curl up with my laptop, ready to blog and write my thoughts away. But then, in the midst of the light dripping of rain, I stop. My thoughts are my thoughts, they are personal and a little selfish. I don’t want to be selfish, but someone who gives, encourages, and inspires. I know I say this a lot but it’s really true! I want to give to you, my beautiful readers! [...] ReplyCancel

I crawled into bed and pulled the covers up tight around my face, my nose just barely peeking out so I was able to breathe. It was shallow and quick. My emotions were flooding me, almost to the point of overflowing with tears. I held them back and willed myself to sleep. Sleep came, but it felt short.

Once morning came, I didn’t want to turn on my computer, tired of feeling like everyone else’s business was cooler/better/more prosperous then mine. I decided to take a shower, it’s where I feel the most relaxed. Instead I came face to face with my emotions under the stream of water. How could I feel so defeated, so alone, and utterly useless when I’m living out one of my life dreams? I almost curled into a ball on the cold plastic floor. My stomach in knots, I pushed through and stepped out into the steam. I decided I needed a break from my everyday.

I turned off facebook.
I turned off twitter.
I only answered important emails.

I turned up music that would make me happy then I opened up the windows to allow fresh air in. And I worked and danced in my little groove. By afternoon I felt better and by evening I received some amazing emails encouragement, a long phone call with a new friend who supported me, and then a conversation with an old friend who pulled me out of my despair.

It’s easy to feel like you’re not good enough, that everyone is more amazing then you. But you need those people around you that support you and think you’re awesome sauce even when you feel like you’re not. Thank you to everyone who supports me, I truly appreciate and love each and every one of you. I wouldn’t be here without you!

  • April 20, 2011 - 4:52 PM

    Tanja - Sweetie, we all feel that way from time to time. Sending a big hug! Let’s have coffee again soon!ReplyCancel

  • April 20, 2011 - 4:56 PM

    Jelger - Hi Lesley, it’s quite a relief for me to read that I’m not the only one who’s sometimes struck by these feelings (even to the point that I feel creatively paralyzed) Sometimes it seems as if all of those ‘others’ who do seem so much better (especially at those down moments) never wrestle with such feelings.

    You probably know by now that I’m a big fan of you and your work, and feel inspired by it. Ironically enough, that makes you ‘the other’ when I’m in a down moment. Yet when I hear that you (and probably all of the ‘others’) are sometimes struck by the same ‘episodes’ it shows me that it’s a part of the road to becoming a better photographer, not a road block that keeps you from it.

    I know quite whell how hard it must be to share this experience with the world. Nonetheless, you do it and keep doing it. I can absolutely applaud you for it.

    Thanks!ReplyCancel

  • April 20, 2011 - 5:18 PM

    Alanna Nicole - I was having these exact same feelings just a few days ago! They come and go for me…it’s tough sometimes! Glad to know I’m not the only one going through this kinda stuff :) I miss you dear friend! I miss our work dates! I miss shooting with you! Hang in there :) You are FABULOUS! You are an amazingly talented photographer, and I admire you in so many ways! Love you girl!ReplyCancel